Date 1=Success

July 9, 2012

OH MY GOD! Literally this date could not have been any better. So let me run you through the whole day. So I kept myself super busy all day so I couldn’t think about the date tonight. I was trying not to get nervous and so when 5 o’clock rolled around I knew I had to get into the shower. I got ready but I was a ball of nerves. I was chatting with friends trying to calm my nerves and to come up with things to talk about. When I got into my car and started driving I was pretty sure I was going to be later and of course I had anxiety about that. I was a hot mess when I rolled up into the parking lot. I got there on time but I didn’t want to go in until 7 minutes late because I wanted to be the second person in. I feel like anyone can accidently be 5 minutes late and 10 minutes is like late late so I figured 7 minutes was a good time frame to get there.  SO when I pulled up I had to actually pull myself together first. I just kept telling myself to be myself and if that wasn’t enough whatever.

When I walked into the bar/restaurant  I was literally feeling like I could throw up when I walked in and I was praying he was there and would find me first. I took a step in the bar and looked to the left and the right and he must have know it was me because before I knew it he was smiling walking toward me. When I say him walk up to me I thought “damn you are cute.” He was so cute and had a good smile. He immediately said “hey e” and I don’t know what happened or came over me but I hugged him wooppss is that weird? I mean I hugged him upon arrival. Now that I dissect that move it was pretty weird. I don’t know I guess I felt immediately comfortable. So I sat at his table and he was immediately chatty. He was asking me questions, telling me about his trip to Hawaii he just took, we talked about our family and then out of nowhere he stopped talking midsentence. I was afraid he was going to leave or something. He looked at me very seriously and said “this might be a deal breaker for our future, whatever you want to future to be.” I was nervous but not really because he was joking and very playful the entire time leading up to this point. He asked me if I was team Skyline or team Gold Star. Obviously without hesitation I told him team Skyline and he said “wonderful this date can continue.” Haha I felt like that was a little glimpse into the person he is. He is very light-hearted and silly. He asked me if I have ever had the bar’s chicken wings because they are the “best chicken wings this side of Mississippi.” I obviously haven’t and since he is a chef I figure I would take his recommendation. He ordered us food and beers and we continued to talk.

Now this is a little odd. So he and his friends go to this place every Monday. His friends were actually there which I thought was intimidating and weird. They actually didn’t bother us and once on of his friends came up and introduced himself to me. I was my normal outgoing self and I think he liked me. I literally felt like myself the entire date. Nothing was forced and it was easy to joke around with him. He also was right on parr with my humor as well. He ate our chicken wings, which is quite a challenge on a first date and continued talking. I really just felt comfortable.  After about an hour and a half of the date, he looked at his watch and asked in I wanted to “get the best margarita’s in Cincinnati.” I think we both knew it was getting to the point in the date where it was ending and I am telling myself that he didn’t want it to end and that’s why we moved on to margs. I obviously said yes because I didn’t want the date to end either. I was having a good time and I loved chatting with him. He kept touching my leg or back and it was really endearing. It was nice to have someone show interest in me. I haven’t felt like that in a really long time. 

So anyways he paid the bill and asked me to go to the Prickly Pear for margs. I asked him where it was and he then told me he could just drive me and bring me back. Well as soon as he said that red lights went off in my head and I was thinking oh shit Craig’s list killer. SO immediately, I have no idea what got into me, but I said “you aren’t going to turn Craig’s list killer on me and kill me are you?” He laughed because we both have the same sense of humor and said “No, but even if I was going to kill you I wouldn’t tell you because that defeats the purpose.” I had felt so comfortable with him and I honestly was okay with getting into the car with him. Now that says a lot coming from the girl who watches the Investigation Discovery channel every day and knows this is a warning sign to get murdered. He laughed it off and then asked me if I ever saw that movie on lifetime. I had so I said yes and he said “well don’t judge me but I have too and it’s a decent flick.” Haha I told him my friends had warned me not to go anywhere with him and that if he did end up killing me I would be pissed. It kind of became our own little joke. We both kept making references back to it. I liked that he could joke and understand my humor and at the same time still be interested in me.

I got into his new car, which was nice, and we started driving to the Prickly Pear. Our easy conversation kept flowing and I felt really confortable. He obviously thinks I’m silly and fun and wanted to hear stories about my life. We both talked about our families and friends and we shared some more personal stories but everything was really light-hearted and easy. He asked me what marg I wanted and there was so many that I didn’t know what to choose. He stepped in and recommended the blood orange marg half frozen and half not. He told me they are the best. So I went with him and he ordered for the both of us. I liked that. I have been riding solo for so long I forgot what it was like to have someone else do things for you. I forgot what it was like to have another person to think about. It was really a great feeling to have him order for me. Silly, right? We both pulled out our ID’s and he took mine swiftly and checked it out. He said I looked beautiful in my picture, which is a lie, but it was a nice compliment. The night continued with us chatting and laughing and connecting.

When he went to drive me back to my car he asked if I wanted to see his complex (because they are new) and I of course said yes because we have to drive past them. Took me to see them and his pool and was excited to show me his building.  His friend called him and he told me he had to take the call. When his friend asked what he was doing he told him he was with his friend E and that he would meet me soon. It could have been taken as too much but I didn’t take it like that at all. I was excited about it. It was cute. He took me to my car and parked next to it. I told him I had a really good time and that I was really nervous over nothing. My phone had been blowing up the entire date so I told him my friends were wondering where I was since the date started at 7pm and it was then 10pm. He told me to text them and tell them I was alive haha. He had heard about my friends all night so he just smiled. We chatted in his car and I didn’t want to get out. He told me I could come to his house and watch food network with him (something we chatted about all night) but like a lady I told him I was going to go home. I wonder if he really wanted to hang out or if he wanted to just sleep with me? I hope he really just wanted to still hang out. Weird but I didn’t. He didn’t ask for my number, probably because I shut him down the first time and said he would want to see me again because he had a good time too. I told him to take my number and text or call sometime during the week. He laughed and said “ok good now I have the privilege of having your number?’ I laughed too and told him since he wasn’t a freak I would give it to him. Then out of nowhere that spontaneous hug came and he hugged me. He either was leaning for a kiss or he smelled my hair. Either way I was glad he reciprocated with the hug.

He texted me after I drove home and told me he wanted to hang out again. He wanted a second date with me! It was such a great feeling! Like amazing. Like shoot for the stars, OMG you want to take me out again? You are interested in me? I couldn’t believe it. I couldn’t believe it for a variety of reasons.

1.     I am rarely interested in people. So having so much chemistry with him was unusual and alarming.

2.     He wasn’t going to play any games and wait a certain time he obviously knew he wanted to see me again.

3.     I just really couldn’t believe the chemistry. I went into this thing thinking whatever it could be good probably not. I thought I wasn’t finding anyone and I felt like it was kind of a waste of time. This date wasn’t a waste of time. If anything this date was encouraging. Am I going to date Mr. Chemistry (I changed his name) forever and get married and have 4 kids? Probably not, but maybe. There was a maybe there. And if this thing fizzled by the end of the week there was always the chance that I could meet someone else on the dating website and have totally chemistry with them. It is encouraging and makes me have hope in the online dating process.

I think this date did a lot for me. It made me reinstall faith in the concept of online dating.  I was feeling doubtful of the process and was teetering toward quitting but this date showed me that there is chemistry on the website and there are people who are looking for the same things as me.  This date also made me feel confident in myself. I haven’t dated and been interested in people for a really long time. I was chatting it up/talking with a guy around December but to my own dumbass self it ended and I pretty much had no faith in myself. I think this date gave me a flame again. It made me believe that I could find someone and not be completely defeated. I feel good after this date. Am I going to marry Mr. Chemistry? Who knows but probably not but it is good to have something right now to be excited about. I’m obviously not putting all my eggs in this basket because this is date one with one person but it gets me excited for future dates with whoever they may be.