So I am back in action. I gave myself a mini pity party
about the fact that Mr. Chemistry became a douche, in my eyes. The reason being
was because I wanted this online dating thing it work. It took me a while to
get to the point where I was okay with the idea of going online and meeting someone.
To be honest, I still have to convince myself it is okay. But anywho, I wanted
this to work. I wanted to be the success story and I wanted to have someone. It
didn’t work out with Mr. Chemistry and honestly I don’t care. He was cute, cool
and fun to hang out with but there were flaws and honestly by the time you are
25 it is time to give up the getting hammered every Monday thing. I was all for
that in college but I have a job now and that isn’t in the description. So he
was a huge bust and who cares. You win some you loose some.
So after I have my mini one-day pity party I decided to
text Mr. Weight Lifter. I mean I’m not getting any younger that’s for sure. I
decided that texting him and giving him my number before we met was risky but
the guy does his freaking laundry and grocery shopping on Sunday. How harmful
could he be? So I texted him. A simple “Hey it is Emily for *********. Sorry I
haven’t responded in a while but what is going on.” It was breezy. Nothing much
he could ignore or reply. Either way whatever. Well, within 20 minutes he responded and told me how happy he
was to hear from me and told me he thinks we have a lot in common and are
looking for the same things. This is true. So the night before I left for
vacation we chatted it up. I mean chatted it up! I felt like I was talking to
an old buddy. He was easy to talk to and I felt comfortable with him. He was
funny and definitely my style. Nothing seemed really awkward. I was almost
taken back at how natural of convo it was via text message. I mean let’s get
one thing straight, I did not go on this thing to be all 1995 internet dating
via technology without meeting face to face. That weirds me out and I look at
this thing as an outlet to meet people but I want to take the dating offline and
not have to communicate for days on end without meeting. The reason we had to
text it up before meeting was because I left for vacation for 2 weeks the day
after I texted him. There was no time to meet and hang out. So that is the
weird dynamic of how I am about to explain me and Mr. Weight Lifter. We are
like 1995 online dating because we text like we are buds/dating yet we have
never met. WAY WEIRD! And also everything I am against…
So after I texted him and told him I was leaving for
vacation for a quest of 2 whole weeks he sent me a sad face and told me he
wanted to meet up but definitely wanted to keep in touch while I was away. I
agreed because these things can die really easily and we continued to text
about silly things like how I had a suitcase of just shoes and I was getting
yelled at for my extensive packing…yadda yadda yadda. He asked if it would be
okay if he texted me during my vacation and was very polite about the way he
went about things. I thought, “holy shit, things do get better with age because
all the assholes I have dated would never ask.” Mr. Chemistry wanted my number
before we ever met. I mean he never would have asked permission. He seemed cool
and I have to admit there was a hint of excitement in my belly. I mean c’mon who doesn’t love the feeling of
attention? So I left for vacation and felt great. I mean yea Mr. Chemistry made
me feel a little shitty about myself but that was in my head. The great thing
about online dating is there is someone else and every time you get on the
thing there are others.
So Mr. weight lifter texted the next morning to make sure
we got off on the road alright and was sending me texts throughout the day that
had a very protective and making sure I was alright. It was kind of nice to
have someone who was checking up on me and making sure everything was okay.
Haven’t had that in a long while. We would text back and forth a little and
then it would die down because he would be working. The first 4 days of my
vacation he would text me randomly and he would ask me questions and make sure
I was okay and using sunscreen and the whole shebang. It was cute. I like
having someone checking up on me. When there were 2 sharks in the water I
texted him and told him about it. He told me that maybe I should leave the
beach and spend the rest of the week at the pool. I thought it was nice. I mean
grant it we have never met in person, but obviously this guy is a nice guy and
cares for others. That could be a good quality.
I will say if I revert back to my not open-minded self and
started to really think about things, I would say I hate the stupid ass smile
faces he send in texts. They look like <:)> in my text messages and it
drives me freaking nuts. Like loco I want to scream nut…but I have to tell
myself not to be picky and to not fall back into my old habits. Maybe his phone is making that happen and he
isn’t typing it. I don’t know..stupid I guess.
So, after a week of texting he asked if it would be okay
if he called me. I said okay but I felt nervous about that. I don’t know what
to say in a phone call to someone I have never met…it seemed weird. So he
called and I screened the phone call. I freaked. I felt weird. I didn’t know
what to say. I mean I met this guy on an online dating website and I have seen
3 pictures of him and have 2 paragraphs he wrote about himself to go off of. It
is kinda weird when you think about it. You know that Brad Paisley song
“online”? Well that is what I thought of. There is a chance he could make
himself be way cool on his profile and actually suck. Without meeting him I
felt like I was missing a piece of the judging pie. Meeting in person would give me a better idea
and it isn’t as intimidating as a phone call. What do you talk on the phone like
old buds? Like, “Hey Mr. Weight Lifter! So how was your day? How was work? Did
you work on your house today? Oh yea, what do you look like again? Do you love
your mom? Do you hold doors open for girls? Do you have good manners? Do you
smile a lot?” All things I could find out by meeting and observing. Weirdos
date solely off of just online, phone, texting interactions. I’m all about the
yea we were first introduced on this dating website but we met and developed a
relationship at this restaurant, this movie, this show, etc. I’m okay with the initial
introduction being through the internet but the relationship needs to build
through interactions. Call me crazy, call me weird, call me a coward but that
is how I feel.
I have to ask myself, by taking Mr. Weight Lifter’s number
and texting him did I put myself in a situation I didn’t want? Am I saying it
is okay to text and chat on the phone without meeting first, in turn, making
this a full blown online relationship? If we get married (hahaha) do I have to
say “well, we met on a dating website and texted and chatted on the phone for
weeks before we ever met”? Because if that is the case I am not okay with it. I
think I messed up on this one. I wouldn’t give Mr. Chemistry my number without
meeting him because I wasn’t okay with chatting via text before meeting so why
did I do it this time? What was I thinking? Was it because I saw the chemistry
fizzle with Mr. Chemistry and I got desperate? Was it because I was feeling
lonely? Was I frustrated? Whatever it was, I broke my online dating rule and
that is get introduced on the web and really meeting in person.
